Something was said recently that made me wonder about myself. So many times in relationships, people think about what they are getting out of it. I know I have a tendency to see all I do and little of what Mike does, but recently I was challenged anew to consider what I do for my beloved.
We were on vacation last week with my kids — a cruise — and I wonder if other people looking at Mike and I would know I love him just by observing us together. Would they see a woman that expects service from her man or would they see someone that serves her man. Ashamedly I must admit that I think people could tell Mike loves me by his actions and how he prefers me over himself but might see a spoiled woman and not really see my love for him.
They might even feel sorry for him with how they overheard me speak to him on occasion, I am sad to admit. OH! Please don’t misunderstand, I did not constantly or consistently say negative things to or about him. I am the type of person that sees her wrongs or embarrassing moments over and over and over and . . . over again. Thus when looking back over the last week or so, I see my wrongs blaring at me . . . scoffing at me . . . accusing me and telling me I have no right to write a blog about marriage since I make these mistakes but I shut out that voice and know that I share these things so that others can learn by my mistakes. Truth be told, I probably wouldn’t see them as readily if I didn’t write this blog and maybe not at all.
Since I’ve gotten home I have pondered what I have done for Mike . . . what do I bring to this marriage . . . how is he bettered by being married to me? I can quickly state the answers to these questions switched around. Mike is the provider for the home; he takes his job of protecting me SERIOUSLY. He loves me and does little things for me too. But what do I really do for him?
Today I am challenged by this and hope that I will keep these thoughts before me for the next week or so, endeavoring to do more to show him my love. I am reminded of the saying about being a Christian . . . if you were on trial for being a Christian, would there be enough evidence to convict you. Turning this to my thoughts today, if I were on trial for loving Mike, would there be enough evidence to convict me?
I shall endeavor to make my words and actions show this more throughout this week. How about you? I know it is harder when you have children that are young but it is just as important at that stage of life too. I hope you will consider these things and ensure that your beloved knows he is loved and respected by you this week.
Until next time, God bless,