Category Archives: Marriage Monday

Because your spouse matters

Marriage Tidbit: Little Touches

While I am working on updating this website, I’ll only be posting tidbits each day (with maybe a bit more on Fridays) until the update is completed.

Michael likes me to touch his feet at night before we go to bed.  He’s usually in bed first, so I I touch his feet as I go past him and get into bed.

In the mornings when I am making Michael’s breakfast, he comes up and rubs my back lightly. It feels so nice.

Little touches mean a lot.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Marriage Tidbit: Valentine’s Day is Coming

While I am working on updating this website, I’ll only be posting tidbits each day (with maybe a bit more on Fridays) until the update is completed.

Well, Sunday is Valentine’s Day! Do you have plans to make your hubby and family feel loved? Michael prefers homemade cards, so I usually make him one. I’ve also written the children letters each year. Tiffany has looked forward to them each year.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Marriage Tidbit: Glad to Wait on Him

Beginning Jan.4th, while I am working on updating this website, I’ll only be posting tidbits each day (with maybe a bit more on Fridays) until the update is completed.

A new widow once heard a woman say that she told her husband not to push to leave the hospital until he could care for himself because she wasn’t a nursemaid. The new widow thought, I wish my husband were here for me to be a nursemaid to.

So, as I wait on Michael, especially as he is sick, I’m thankful that he is here for me to wait on.

Until next time, God bless,
Michele ºÜº

Marriage Tidbit: Be Willing and Read Between the Lines

Beginning Jan.4th, while I am working on updating this website, I’ll only be posting tidbits each day (with maybe a bit more on Fridays) until the update is completed.

I know it can be difficult to ready to be intimate when you have young children but if there is anything I regret, it is that when my hubby asked me if I wanted to be intimate that I didn’t always say yes. I wrongly assumed he was really asking what I wanted instead of really saying that it is what he wanted.

It’s important to have good communication between you and hubby. Be sure you understand what he is asking/saying and be willing to be intimate unless you really just can’t.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Marriage Tidbit: Pray

Beginning Jan.4th, while I am working on updating this website, I’ll only be posting tidbits each day (with maybe a bit more on Fridays) until the update is completed.

It is easy for me to remember to pray for Michael and our marriage when I get frustrated about something. But I was recently reminded that I should bring our marriage to God in prayer daily.

After days like yesterday where it seemed Michael and I could not get on the same page no matter what I did, I realize that I don’t pray enough for our marriage. :D Seriously though, I’m guessing that a daily conversation with God about our marriage will have lasting benefits. ;)

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Marriage Tidbit: Grace During Stress

Beginning Jan.4th, while I am working on updating this website, I’ll only be posting tidbits each day (with maybe a bit more on Fridays) until the update is completed.

During times of stress, remember your spouse is probably stressed too and give him a little extra grace and understanding.

We are now in our fourth day of a water outage, not only does this stress me, but it stresses my hubby too. Thus we both must give a little extra understanding as we deal with this trying situation.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Marriage Tidbit: Don’t Hold a Grudge

Beginning Jan.4th, while I am working on updating this website, I’ll only be posting tidbits each day (with maybe a bit more on Fridays) until it’s completed.
When hubby does something that hurts you, decide if it is something you just need to realize that he didn’t intend to hurt you, get over it, and forgive him or if you need to discuss it with him.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Foods Affects Attitude

Over the last several days we have not been adhering to our normal way of eating. We have all eaten sugar and white carbs that we don’t normally eat.

One day we noticed that Michael was pretty frustrated. It has been a long time since he has been that frustrated. We finally realized that it had only happened since eating the way we used to eat. And then realized that it must be a blood sugar level issue.

Tiffany is actually the one that put two and two together for us. Once armed with that knowledge, he made efforts to anchor the sugar and white carbs with lean protein a bit more intentionally.

Food plays such a vital role even in our attitudes. Keeping this in mind is helpful to me. It affects children as well as adults.

I hope you have a good week as you plan to celebrate the ending of 2020 and welcome in 2021.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Ask, Don’t Assume

This week is Christmas. We have some Christmas traditions, as I’m sure most people do. But in November I like to ask my family what are some of the traditions or activities they’d like to do again and if there is anything new they’d like to do.

I find it is best to have a conversation about these things rather than just assuming that everyone still wants to do everything as usual. And sometimes you find there is something new you can do instead of an old activity.

I’ve learned to reduce the number of things we do. With fewer commitments made during December, we are able to enjoy the month a bit more. It is important to communicate with your spouse about what he likes to do and what he really doesn’t–some can be dropped but some are unavoidable. For the unavoidable ones, talk about strategies to make it more enjoyable to you both.

Communication is soooo important! Take time to really share this week with each other and not so busy being busy that you are frazzled and frustrated. I got my wrapping done last night so that won’t make me all frazzled. Now I can focus on cleaning up the mess I made in my three day wrap-a-thon :D and really enjoy the week.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas week!

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Handling Differences

Michael and I are very different. I like it cooler in the house and he likes it warmer. consequently I usually have a fan on me most of the time. ;) When it gets cold out, I love to keep it cooler in the house so I can actually bundle up and cover up with blankets.

I especially like our bedroom cooler so that we can snuggle for longer than a hot second. :D Of course Michael likes it warmer. The cold reminds him of bad memories but I try to give him lots of good memories in the cold. ;)

Of course, sometimes our temperature preferences causes things to get a bit heated. ;) But I’m trying to remind myself give and take–not to pull too hard for my way.

Michael is an early bird and I’m a night owl. Most of our lives I have gone to bed at the same time as he has and gotten up within a half hour. Of course then I was homeschooling the kids, so getting to bed and up and busy was a good thing. But as I’m aging, my body clock is changing; I no longer need as much sleep. These days I go to bed a bit later most nights and still get up about the same time as before. However, when it is cold and a night when he doesn’t have to get up early the next morning, he’ll stay up with me.

How do you handle differences? Do you use it as an opportunity to love on each other? Give each other grace? I’m learning to be a bit more gracious and giving. :)

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº