I think one of the best prayers you can pray for your children is that God would give them the friends HE wants them to have. I prayed this for my children and it seems that God was even more selective than I was.
Tiffany and I have joked about her being invisible in the past. To some extent it seems she still is. I think it was a protection of sorts so that she didn’t get caught up with the wrong kids. Of course, it was not easy for her. I tried a number of things to help her make connections with others–homeschool gatherings, church gatherings, youth specific activities– but in the end, she was pretty lonesome. I did my best to make up for the lack of friends her own age and today we are the best of friends, for which I am exceedingly grateful.
She has turned this around in her life today. She’s a mature young lady that goes out of her introverted comfort zone and seeks out others at church. Through it all, she has found she is much more comfortable talking with older people than with people her own age. So many of the older ladies just love her and remark over how sweet she is.
I guess my point is that she turned a difficult time, a time where she was really “invisible,” into something good. She now seeks out others who seem to be alone and talks to them, making them a bit less invisible too.
I was reminded of the whole invisibility thing when I saw this article posted by someone on facebook. It contained an interesting and a bit familiar story. I felt it was worth reading.
I hope that if you find yourself in a similar situation, you will remember to treat others the way you would like to be treated yourself.
Until next time, God bless,