I just love The Generous Wife website! Lori encourages me so much and shares some really great articles. Her daily post is succinct so it is not a huge time commitment and thus is one little thing you can do to better yourself in your marriage.

Well, not only does she have her website, her husband has a site (The Generous Husband), and they have a marriage site as well; such a blessing to Christian marriages!

Last week I read an article they had on another of their sites, The XY Code. This one was written by Paul, Lori’s husband, and really made me think.

Even now, days later, I’m still thinking about this. How would I act differently (better), if my marriage were different (better)? So much of the time it is easy to just focus on the things that frustrate me and I wish he wouldn’t do them (few as they are), but how would that change me? I know I wouldn’t be as frustrated at times but the real question is, do I treat him differently than I should? Would I treat him differently or act differently myself if he were to never act in certain ways?

I’ve learned over the last decade or so that I cannot change him . . . I can only change myself. So when he gets frustrated or shall I say, frustrates me, I have learned to take some L-Theanine (an amino acid that helps regulate mood among other things) or some St. John’s Wort, which I actually take on a daily basis.

At any rate, I’m pondering this thought of how I treat Michael and how it can affect him. I hope these thoughts are helpful to you and that they will be food for thought.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº