I was looking through my pinterest board for ideas for today’s blog post when I was reminded to truly listen when my hubby talks, especially when it is a topic where I have a very different opinion. Sometimes I am frustrated and begin coming up with my rebuttal, and sometimes even butt in, interrupting him as he is talking.
If I am not really listening to his words and following along with his train of thought, how can we communicate? The problem though is that as he talks a thought jumps into my mind, related to what he’s saying–usually in opposition to what he is saying — and it generally completely disappears if I don’t say something but that is not fair to him.
I guess what I need to do is to pray, as a general practice, that when I have a conversation with someone, but especially with my hubby, that God will bring all the words back to my mind that need to be said.
My natural instinct is to write it down so that I don’t forget it but that is not fair to him either because, again, I am not focusing on what he is saying but with my argument. If I am unable to recollect my thoughts, then either they may not need to be shared or maybe they are better left to another time.
Here is the post/article that got me thinking about this: 15 Rules for Fighting Fair in Marriage.
What are your thoughts? How do you handle tough conversations (fights)? I guess I have been more concerned with proving I’m right, than for us to come to an understanding. Ahhh, more to pray about.
I hope you have a good week.
Until next time, God bless,