Philippians 4:8 gives us a list of things to think about, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Unfortunately too many times in marriage there is the tendency to think about the negative things.
The problem with that is the more you think on things the bigger they seem and the more you see them. If it is positive things you are focusing on, you tend to see more positive things. But if it is negative things that you are focusing on, you tend to see even more negative things.
The suggestion then, to better ones marriage, is to write down three positive things about your spouse each day. Then once that pattern is established, go one step further, complement your spouse each day. Eventually the positives so totally outweigh the bad that the bad things are viewed much more dimly than in the past.
Crystal of Money Saving Mom talks about this in her article about an interview with Focus on the Family back in November ’14. Click the link to read about her experiences and with looking for the positive.
I’m keeping it short and sweet today.
Until next time, God bless,