I remember hearing Kirk Martin and his son Kacey speak at our local homeschool convention several years ago. He talked about keeping calm and asking for what you needed; he had seminars on both marriage and handling children. I signed up for his emails and have shared one or two of them with you here.
I followed a link in a recent email and listened to a short podcast. I didn’t completely agree with what he shared but there were some things I did agree with. Then I started clicking around on his sites and found this article and felt it was worth sharing. It shares about managing emotions and impulses.
I especially liked because it talks about looking for your child’s talents, strengths, and interests. It also shows the positive trait verses negative traits.
I remember when reading Caterpillar Summer, Chicken said one time that sometimes the urge to run was just so strong he couldn’t stop himself from doing it. It explained so well how some things happen with some people, so that I can relate a bit more.
Here’s an article about handling emotions that I thought might be helpful too.
Until next time,
Last week Lori of The Generous Wife shared an older post from her website about communicating with your husband. It was quite interesting and got me thinking about how most of the time I don’t have much to talk about except normal every day home happenings and that can get very boring and monotonous.
Lori says she became intentional with conversation, looking for things to talk about with her hubby. This has stuck with me and I intend to attempt to find something new to talk about with my hubby each day. It may be a bit difficult in the beginning but I think it is important. If you still have children at home, it can even include good things they said or did.
Do you talk about interesting things with your hubby or do you tend to whine, complain, or nag him? I encourage you to join me in upping your conversation game with your hubby.
Until next time,
We have conference this week at our church and are volunteering our help, so I’m going to keep this a bit short today.
Children with a lot of energy have to expend that energy in order to be able to sleep. I saw this post with 44 high energy activities for toddlers. It includes things like laser chase, dance party, and hokey pokey to name a few. There are also some purchasable games that I have not heard of before, so maybe they’ll be some new ideas for you as well.
I hope this is helpful to you.
Until next time,
Years ago, when I worked outside of the home, I took some managerial workshops. One of the things I learned and tried to make apart of my life was to confront situations by saying things like “I feel . . . when you . . .” kind of statements. By doing so, it doesn’t make the individual as defensive and a bit more open to seeing things in another way.
I read an article not long ago that shared some of the same ideas in communicating with you spouse. I think it is a very good idea. Of course, it is difficult to stop in the heat of a discussion and think clearly to communicate this way but it can be very helpful.
I hope you will find the article helpful to you and your marriage.
Until next time,
I’ve said it before, you cannot change your husband; you can only change you (or your reaction). I stand by this statement but am going to share a post that has a completely different title , 8 Thoughts that will Change your Husband.
The article is over on The Not So Excellent Wife by Sheila Qualls. I believe this is the first time I’ve been on her site and probably came from a link shared by The Generous Wife ; she shares such good stuff.
At any rate, Sheila shares some quick ideas to help see positive changes in your spouse. I know that when I’m even slightly frustrated, the people in my house can “feel” or “sense” my frustration. Likewise, if I’m excited, they can feel that too. As our thoughts go, there goes the rest of us.
I hope you’ll jump over to Sheila’s article and that it will be an encouragement to you, even if it is a challenge.
Until next time,
PS. Just a quick reminder that I now have a page set up with Patreon.
While I was looking into Patreon, I found this interesting youtube channel that I thought I’d pass along. It is an educational channel.
Now, I do have to say that I did not watch many of the videos and am sure that I don’t agree with everything they say and you may not either. However I just use that as a talking point or a topic for further research.
I hope you’ll find this link helpful to you in your homeschooling endeavors,
I’m going to keep it short today because I have another link to share with you (that I found through The Generous Wife). The link today is about how to “Grow Back Together” with your spouse.
The author makes a really great analogy to preparing for a marathon. Check out the article; it’s a really good read.
Odds are that you married your spouse because you were happy and in love. You can probably get those feelings back with just a little bit of work. Seriously, you need to go check it out.
Until next time,
Tiffany and I watch some youtube channels together; mostly she picks them. One of the art ones we watch is Echo Gillette. Now, I’m going to say this right up front, you have to be careful with her content because she will occasionally swear. Disclaimer done for now.
Recently we watched this video where she talked about the primary colors and how what we are all taught is not true. She also shared, scientifically, that it isn’t a really a color wheel because colors are seen because of different wavelengths.
I feel she did a great job explaining all of it that I just had to share. You see, I always liked to teach my children the truth as I understood it but then would tell them what other people think. In this case I would share this information and then tell them how it has been taught for a very long time.
Here is the link to the video. Be forewarned that she does use the “f” word twice and freaking 2-3 times. The first time the f-bomb is used is somewhere close to 5:45 (like maybe 5:50 or 5:51) and then again right around 9:00 minutes into the video. Normally I wouldn’t share videos with foul language but this had some really great content and is also a good teaching point that we don’t have to agree with everything someone does to learn something worthwhile.
You could always watch the video and teach it to your children yourself or let them watch it with you and then pause and skip the parts you don’t want them to hear.
I hope you find this information helpful,
Lori Byerly shared some good thoughts about requesting help from your spouse, but it can certainly be applied to any situation in which you need to request help. I think her suggestions are very helpful and will attempt to put it into practice.
One thing I’ll add is that sometimes I need to remind my hubby to do a task. He gets so busy and it is easy for things to slip the mind–I know it happens to me too. But when I need to remind him of something, I try not to do it very close together. I try to let an appropriate amount of time, days or even weeks, if possible, pass before reminding him about the thing that I’ve requested.
This is one reason why her suggestion about giving a time frame was such a good idea to me. So many times we ask for something to be done and we really want it done right now but he cannot stop what he is doing and do said thing immediately. Here again, it is a lack of communication but Lori’s ideas help communicate better.
The last thing that really stuck out to me from her post was to model what you would like to receive. Put another way, practice what you preach. This is true in raising children as well; if you want to have children that read, don’t expect them to pick up a book if you don’t. But that’s a topic for Thursdays.
I hope you’ll hop on over to Lori’s site and read the thoughtful post there. It’s a quick read. Also, please comment below if you already follow or subscribe to Lori’s posts (either on her blog or facebook). I know I refer to her a lot because she is such a great resource and super encourager but don’t really want to just be a repeat in your life.
I’ll run for now,
When Michael comes home from a day at work, I generally ask him how his day was. This does not generally elicit much real conversation. It is usually later, when he has been home for a bit and unwound a little that he actually tells us specifics of his day.
I read this post that had some good suggestions of other ways start a good conversation. 14 Alternatives to “How Are You?”
I’ll just keep this short so that you can jump over there and read it too.
I hope this is a benefit to you and your family,