I’ve said it before, you cannot change your husband; you can only change you (or your reaction). I stand by this statement but am going to share a post that has a completely different title , 8 Thoughts that will Change your Husband.
The article is over on The Not So Excellent Wife by Sheila Qualls. I believe this is the first time I’ve been on her site and probably came from a link shared by The Generous Wife ; she shares such good stuff.
At any rate, Sheila shares some quick ideas to help see positive changes in your spouse. I know that when I’m even slightly frustrated, the people in my house can “feel” or “sense” my frustration. Likewise, if I’m excited, they can feel that too. As our thoughts go, there goes the rest of us.
I hope you’ll jump over to Sheila’s article and that it will be an encouragement to you, even if it is a challenge.
Until next time,
PS. Just a quick reminder that I now have a page set up with Patreon.
While I was looking into Patreon, I found this interesting youtube channel that I thought I’d pass along. It is an educational channel.
Now, I do have to say that I did not watch many of the videos and am sure that I don’t agree with everything they say and you may not either. However I just use that as a talking point or a topic for further research.
I hope you’ll find this link helpful to you in your homeschooling endeavors,
I’m going to keep it short today because I have another link to share with you (that I found through The Generous Wife). The link today is about how to “Grow Back Together” with your spouse.
The author makes a really great analogy to preparing for a marathon. Check out the article; it’s a really good read.
Odds are that you married your spouse because you were happy and in love. You can probably get those feelings back with just a little bit of work. Seriously, you need to go check it out.
Until next time,
Tiffany and I watch some youtube channels together; mostly she picks them. One of the art ones we watch is Echo Gillette. Now, I’m going to say this right up front, you have to be careful with her content because she will occasionally swear. Disclaimer done for now.
Recently we watched this video where she talked about the primary colors and how what we are all taught is not true. She also shared, scientifically, that it isn’t a really a color wheel because colors are seen because of different wavelengths.
I feel she did a great job explaining all of it that I just had to share. You see, I always liked to teach my children the truth as I understood it but then would tell them what other people think. In this case I would share this information and then tell them how it has been taught for a very long time.
Here is the link to the video. Be forewarned that she does use the “f” word twice and freaking 2-3 times. The first time the f-bomb is used is somewhere close to 5:45 (like maybe 5:50 or 5:51) and then again right around 9:00 minutes into the video. Normally I wouldn’t share videos with foul language but this had some really great content and is also a good teaching point that we don’t have to agree with everything someone does to learn something worthwhile.
You could always watch the video and teach it to your children yourself or let them watch it with you and then pause and skip the parts you don’t want them to hear.
I hope you find this information helpful,
Lori Byerly shared some good thoughts about requesting help from your spouse, but it can certainly be applied to any situation in which you need to request help. I think her suggestions are very helpful and will attempt to put it into practice.
One thing I’ll add is that sometimes I need to remind my hubby to do a task. He gets so busy and it is easy for things to slip the mind–I know it happens to me too. But when I need to remind him of something, I try not to do it very close together. I try to let an appropriate amount of time, days or even weeks, if possible, pass before reminding him about the thing that I’ve requested.
This is one reason why her suggestion about giving a time frame was such a good idea to me. So many times we ask for something to be done and we really want it done right now but he cannot stop what he is doing and do said thing immediately. Here again, it is a lack of communication but Lori’s ideas help communicate better.
The last thing that really stuck out to me from her post was to model what you would like to receive. Put another way, practice what you preach. This is true in raising children as well; if you want to have children that read, don’t expect them to pick up a book if you don’t. But that’s a topic for Thursdays.
I hope you’ll hop on over to Lori’s site and read the thoughtful post there. It’s a quick read. Also, please comment below if you already follow or subscribe to Lori’s posts (either on her blog or facebook). I know I refer to her a lot because she is such a great resource and super encourager but don’t really want to just be a repeat in your life.
I’ll run for now,
When Michael comes home from a day at work, I generally ask him how his day was. This does not generally elicit much real conversation. It is usually later, when he has been home for a bit and unwound a little that he actually tells us specifics of his day.
I read this post that had some good suggestions of other ways start a good conversation. 14 Alternatives to “How Are You?”
I’ll just keep this short so that you can jump over there and read it too.
I hope this is a benefit to you and your family,
Have you and your children been to the beach this summer? Have you seen sand lately? I bet you didn’t see it like this.
Yeah, I think it is a cool science link. It shows what sand particles look like magnified three hundred times. Yep, 300 times! I thought it was amazing. Then I remembered that sand is nothing but small bits of shells and such.
I won’t keep you any longer because I really want you to go check out what sand looks like magnified 300 times.
Until next time,
Before I share today’s resource, I just want to remind you that since it is July 25th, it is technically Christmas in July. If you’d like to read a fun cozy murder mystery (that reads like a romantic comedy at Christmas time), go check out my daughter’s first book, Murder Mystery and the Gingerbread Cookies available on Amazon (and a few other places I can’t recall right now ). She started writing it when she was 12 years old. We published a few years ago in ebook and finally jumped through all the hoops to get it into paperback this past February.
My sister told me about this wonderful resource last week when we got together. I had not seen this one before but looks really great.
The resource is 8 For Each State: US Geography. On this page you will find an overview and links to each state’s webpage. Don’t forget to go to the introduction page to get some more state study ideas.
Some links that Jessica used are no longer working but some can be found by pasting the link into the wayback machine at archive.org. I’ve had some success finding some broken links, including pdf files, there.
This could be used as a two-year geography study. What I saw of it is really good. I hope it is helpful to you and your family in the education of your children.
Until next time,
Do you have a pre-teen or teen? Do you struggle with books for them to read? Do they think they must get books from the YA (young adult) section of the library? Do you know that YA is NOT a reading level?
I read books from all over the library. Yep, children’s department too; see these posts I did recently about some juvenile fiction I’ve read in the last month or so. I’ve got one more checked out that I want to read yet. But I digress.
I’ve read some YA books and I have to say that I would be very careful about which books my kids read in that area. They are generally filled with angst and teens experimenting with all sorts of things. There are soooo many good books in the juvenile section that are worthwhile reading.
Here is a really good article and even a podcast (but I haven’t listened to that) about the YA designation and that category. It is not a short read but does have some book suggestions as you scroll to the bottom. I’m looking forward to reading some of these myself.
I hope this helps you steer your child through their reading adventures.
Sometimes I don’t know how to pray for my marriage, myself, or my husband. That’s one reason I’ve loved Lori Byerly’s site, The Generous Wife, because she encourages me in this area.
Well I recently found out that there is another Christian marriage blogger that is doing a daily marriage prayer too. It’s a succinct prayer. I don’t know how long she has been doing this daily but there are quite a few pages so she must have been doing it a long time. You can sign up to have them delivered in your mail if that is helpful to you . . . it would just get lost in my email. I’m better off setting it as my home page.
I hope you will head on over to Unveiled Wife for a daily marriage prayer and it will be an encouragement to you.