I have learned over the last several years (okay, probably more than that but I digress) the Michael doesn’t need to have things make sense. I, on the other hand, definitely do. If I cannot make sense out of something, I have a hard time going with it.
Michael and I have had discussions where he was going to do something a certain way and it didn’t make any sense to me. It seemed that his way was not the “best” way to do it, in my opinion. So I would ask him to please explain to me why he was doing it that way (or going to do it that way). Some times he would just say some thing like, I don’t know, I just am. Well that wasn’t good enough for me.
So then I’d explain why I thought a different way was better but he would still continue to go about it his way. This was bothersome to me. It seemed like he didn’t value my opinion but that wasn’t the case at all. It really didn’t matter how he did whatever it was, so it was really no slight to me.
At some point we watched a Star Trek movie; I don’t remember which one. But at some point I believe that Spock told Kirk that what he was doing was illogical. I could really relate with this. Kirk just did it his way even after Spock’s comments.
I have taken this and helped myself curb frustration with Michael and how he does things by realizing that I am being like Spock and he is being like Kirk. Sometimes I even say, “That is illogical.” He’s gotten used to me quoting from movies, so this does not bother him. And it has the benefit to him of shutting me up.
Some times I will just say something like, Kirk and Spock. And other times I will just think it in my head. But the end result is still the same, I drop it and it ceases to bother me.
I was shopping with my baby sister last week and she was telling me about a situation where she didn’t understand why her hubby was doing something the way he was and it frustrated her. I told her about this and said I think it must be a man-thing. But that thinking about it as Spock and Kirk helped me and she seemed to like it. So I thought I’d share it with you, in hopes that you can sometimes just drop a subject and not cause undue stress on yourself and/or your marriage.
Until next time, God bless,