Michael is opposed to long distance relationships. There have been very few times when we have been away from each other for more than a night or two (and even those have been pretty sparse) in our nearly 32 years of marriage. But in reading Full Disclosure by Dee Henderson recently, I realized that if you are stuck with a long distance relationship, now is a pretty good era to do so.
With Facetime, Google Duo, Skype, and the various social media platforms, you can really stay in touch much more easily than in past eras. In the book, they have a video chat on as they spend the evening together. It reminds me so much of how we spend our evenings. We are all in the same room together and we may have some video playing on the television but we are all doing our own thing, multitasking, if you will. Sometimes I knit or crochet while watching the show. Sometimes I do some art or play a game on my laptop. Other times Tiffany and I want to read books, so we don’t have anything playing on the tv.
The point is, it is important to spend time together in the same room. If doing that over a video chat you are getting a peek into the other person’s life. It can be vulnerable to open yourself up that way. People tend to be private individuals and sequester themselves in their own spaces/rooms. But spending time together in the same room and able to share something that sparks your interest or makes you laugh is relationship building.
I don’t really know what point I’m trying to make other than, if there is a will, there is a way to build your relationship, even if you are long distance. And if you are already married, I hope you are taking advantage of just being together, even if you are doing your own thing. Yes, there are times when it is good to get alone but when you are married, in my opinion, those times should be few. But even then, I guess it is vital to know what you need as both an individual and a couple and be sure to make those needs known (upfront if possible). But remember this too, needs change as we grow, mature, and situations change. Make sure that you keep the lines of communication open both to what you desire and what your spouse desires. And by all means, pray about the things you think you need and the things your spouse says they need/desire. Ask Him to help you to communicate well with your spouse and change each where change is needed.
Well, that is enough rambling for today. Until next time, God bless,