Back in February, Lori Byerly of The Generous Wife held a challenged her readers to do a kindness for your spouse every day. I liked the idea and casually participated. I really didn’t think too much about it though.
Then this week I read this article by Shaunti Feldhahn about The Kindness Challenge. I love Shunti’s books and the information she shares. They’ve really been helpful to me in giving me understanding and insight into some wrong behaviors I had toward Michael. I wrote a little about it when I first started this blog a couple years ago but I digress. This new article isn’t just about marriage; it is about any relationship be it with your spouse, teen, co-worker, anyone.
Reading this article reminded me of my own “Kindness Project” I did, way back when I was in ninth grade. We had just moved from another state a couple of months into the new school year. I was not only an introvert but a shy one at that. At that time, Physical Education was a required course and I didn’t like the class to begin with but there was a popular gal in my class that decided to pick on me and make my life miserable.
I told my mom about it and she suggested that I “kill her with kindness.” I really didn’t see how that was going to help me but Mom thought it was the best course of action, so I did as she suggested. Every time I saw this girl I smiled and would say hi to her.
After about a week or so of this, she came and sat down across from me at lunch. She said something like, we are you being nice to me when I’m not nice to you? I don’t even remember what my response was to her . . . maybe it was something like, because I want to be your friend. Whatever my answer was to her, it astounded her. We became friends. We even exchanged Christmas gifts that year. When others would start to pick on me in PE, she told them to stop.
So, all that to say, I know kindness works! Give it a try in your life. No harm in letting your husband be the beneficiary of your kindness project, even if you did do Lori’s challenge in February. It is always a good thing for me to be extra kind to Michael.
I hope this encourages you to add an extra bit of kindness in your life this week, month, or even year.
Until next time, God bless,