Sometimes I have an expectation of how something will go or how something will be celebrated. I’ve learned this before but it bears repeating; unfortunately I’m repeating it AFTER Mother’s Day instead of before, when it would have been more helpful but maybe it will help you before your next celebration.
Unless you tell someone your expectations, you need to have low or even NO expectations about how a celebration will go. If I have hopes about how my celebration will be carried out, it is seldom realized. However if I have no ideas for how a day should be celebrated (like Mother’s Day, a birthday, an anniversary, and such) then no matter what we do, I’m good.
If doing particular things are important to me, then I need to tell the person that I desire it from, otherwise it is unfair to them and to myself. It sets myself up for sadness or even depression. It reminds me of what Lori Byerly of The Generous Wife said she had to learn: ask for what she needs.
Don’t drop hints. Don’t hope things will go a certain way without sharing your desires. Be realistic with your NEEDS.
I hope this will help you and will remind me in the future.
Until next time, God bless