Category Archives: Marriage Monday

Because your spouse matters

Private Messaging

So have you ever wanted to send your sweetie a suggestive message but don’t want any chance of others seeing it? When a text is received, it can be seen on the locked screen of the phone, unless you’ve already selected a different setting.

Well, there is a way around this but unfortunately it works for ALL messages. ;)

On an iphone you:

  • go into Settings
  • Notifications
  • Messaging
  • Show Previews
  • Then select either When Unlocked or Never

This keeps your messages private.

I’m looking into other methods as well, like sending through Love Nudge. I thought this worked but then it didn’t seem to be private (before changing the preview setting) but upon further inspection, it isn’t in the usual text message app but completely located in Love Nudge.

SO all that to say, selecting no previews will notify you that you have a text on the lock screen but not give you the message there. You have to unlock and view the message in the message app.

I’ll update you one the Love Nudge app’s messaging, if it works completely privately (i.e. not putting the message in the message app but only in the love nudge app).

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

PS. Be careful about linked devices, as you wouldn’t want a family tablet to have those private messages showing. ;)


I love that Lori Byerly, The Generous Wife, reminds us on the first of each month, to pray for marriages. I have to admit before reading her posts, I hadn’t thought about praying for the marriages of my friends unless I knew their marriage was struggling.

I also never thought to pray for my pastor’s marriage. It makes so much sense though! I’ll definitely be praying for our pastors’ marriage on a regular basis. :)

Lori also gives a few ideas of how to pray/for what to pray.

I hope you will also pray for the marriages of people you know and love.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

A Little Reassessment

I’ve not been feeling well this weekend. It doesn’t happen often to me  but when it does, Michael works hard to help me feel better.

I was a so stuffy! I got a tad bit dizzy too. So Michael picked up a variety of herbs and supplements as well as a blood pressure monitor and blood sugar monitor. I was pleased to find that my blood pressure was okay, not great but not bad either.

He’s been so attentive, getting me tea and vitamins and whatever else he can think of to get for me. As I was thinking about what to write today and looked at all Michael was doing for me, it made me wonder if I am as attentive to him when he is not feeling well.

I know I’m a blessed woman and not everyone is as blessed as I am, which is just another reason for me to be honest about how I treat my sweetheart. So as I sit here sniffling and being miserable, I’m thinking about how I can be just as attentive to Michael as he is to me when I’m not feeling well.

I hope this encourages you to stop and think about what you can do to/for your hubby.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

You are Loved!

Things change. Some things change for the better and others are more difficult to handle. Some changes are tough emotionally and others are tough in other ways.

It is important to find your worth in Jesus! Don’t find your worth in what others think about you or things you do. You’re always going to disappoint someone, so don’t set yourself up for depression by letting that dictate your worth.

God thinks you are worth all His sacrifice. Work on your relationship with Him and find what He thinks about you and know that you are loved.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Maybe it is Time to Just Be Silent and Pray

I’ve come to the conclusion that I am opinionated and mouthy, especially to my husband. This is not a trait I’m proud of and one I am ready to confront.

You may recall that we are looking for a new church home. Between that and our middle son moving out of our home (but still on our property), I have seen the error of my ways. ;)

The other night a situation arose where I would have normally jumped in to referee between hubby and son but instead, I just shut my mouth (for the moment). Of course after Sean left to go back to his home, I blew whatever progress I had made by erupting at Michael.

In my defense, it had been an emotional day for me and don’t want to lose my grown children. But that is no excuse. I need to grow up and put everything in God’s hands . . . and pray about these situations.

Sometimes the best thing I can do is shut up. But of course, pray too.

I hope this encourages you today. If you are in a situation where the thing you SHOULD do is not say anything, know that you are not alone. God will help us! We just have to ask Him to. Of course, when I pray, I also pray for God to change me where I am wrong and change the other party (be it Michael or one of my grown children or even any other person) where they are wrong.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Chili ~

“Make the Chili”

My daughter was on facebook recently when she saw this post and read it to me. It reminds me of something my friend told me quite a few years ago. You see I was struggling with my relationship with Michael. Don’t get me wrong, I love the man dearly, but it was that stage of life where I just realized we’d been having the same problems and arguments over and over and over again. I felt like he still had the same problems/faults he did when we first got married–ones we both thought he’d work through.

At this point, some nearly ten years later, I cannot even tell you what was frustrating me so badly but I asked God for help and wanted a ‘mentor,’ as such, to counsel me in my situation. There was a lady at church that really worshiped God with all her might AND I noticed that she seemed to ‘hear’ from God. So I asked her to come for lunch the next week and told her that I believe she is a woman of God and is led by Him and told her that I was hoping she would be able to speak into my life in regards to my marriage.

She came. We had a lovely visit. I think God had other things in mind for our day but before she left we did talk about what I wanted to. Her husband had passed away a few years prior and she missed him. She said the only advice she had for me was to think about how I would feel if Michael were gone. That is a sobering thought. And it fits in with the story Tiff read me on facebook.

Make the Chili
By Pam Berg
A good friend of mine unexpectedly lost her husband. A couple of months later we were going for a run together, chatting about nothing. She asked me what my dinner plans were. I told her my hubby wanted chili, but I didn’t feel like stopping at the store. We ran on for a few more minutes when she quietly said, “make the chili.’
It took me a few minutes to realize we were no longer taking about dinner. It was about going out of your way to do something for someone you love because at any moment, they could unexpectedly be taken from you.
So today, I’m sharing with you the wisdom handed to me by my dear friend. I’ve thought of it many times since that day. The next time someone you love wants you to go for a walk, watch some football or play a board game, just put your phone down and give them your undivided attention. Just do it. Make the chili.
1 Cor 10:24
No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.

(copied from Glen’s Story Hour on facebook)

I hope this encourages you to keep things in perspective and do what you may not really want to do just because.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Do It Now; Don’t Delay

I got this email from Kathy Butryn entitled Today Matters Paying Attention to the Time of Our Life. In it she talked about three  words (later, soon, and someday) that pull our attention from paying attention to what is important today.

It means that we are waiting for the perfect time that we will want to do something but that time never really gets here. There is a point when we just have to buckle down and do what needs to be done.

There are many ways to help yourself do this. One can utilize a bullet journal for such items or to-do lists or sticky notes but the bottom line is at some point you just HAVE to do it. Don’t let procrastination steal the important things from you.

I like to assign days for specific tasks and I also like to attach tasks to things that I already do, e.g. take my vitamins before bed, work on the checkbook after lunch, do some art on Tuesday and so on.

I am much more productive when I make a list of things I need to do in my bullet journal.

This goes for marriage as well. Later, soon, and someday are not words that enrich a marriage. Sometimes it cannot be helped and you need to put something off until later, but if it can just as easily be done now, your marriage will be better for having done it sooner rather than later.

So, I’m off to consider what to make for dessert, as my man loves his dessert. :)

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

PS. I tried to find a link for the email I received from her but couldn’t find one and her emails are copyrighted. Here’s the link to her website though.

How to Handle Anger

Michael watched a video recently that talked about how to handle anger. It suggests that to stop the anger you need to disconnect from the emotions.

Michael said his take away was that when you start to get angry or the person you are talking with gets angry, stop and ask why they are angry. By thinking about the cause or reason for the anger, it causes a disconnect and alleviates the anger build up.

I recommend checking out the video. It is rather lengthy but I’d bet there is a lot more in it than the one nugget Michael shared with me. ;) But if nothing else, applying this one bit can be helpful in relationships/marriage.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Improving Your Marriage

I read this article about a marriage that was struggling. She said that although her husband did have some things he needed to change, she was operating in bitterness. So she made some changes and started cultivating patience, kindness, hope, and love.

Her article is a very good one. I encourage you to click over and read her story. It is quite encouraging and hopeful.

I hope her story will encourage you to cultivate patience, kindness, hope, and love in your marriage. I know it has me.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº