Marriages can drift apart but people can also lose themselves in their marriage, especially ones they have children.
It is vital that you do something each day you like. It is also vital that you do something each day to continue to build up your relationship with your spouse. And most important of all, do something each day to build your relationship with God.
Three Vital Things
- Build your relationship with God
Read a scripture, pray, sing to God, worship Him. There are a lot of ways to build your relationship with God and each one can make that relationship stronger.
It doesn’t have to take a lot of time. You can talk to God as you straighten up the house, wash dishes, or fold laundry. You can sing or worship while taking a shower. Or you can even take a bit of time (even just a few minutes) in the morning or evening.
Michael has gotten up early to pray and read the Bible since the children were very little. He set a good example of putting God first in his day. It made an impression on the kids.
I had a part of our school day that was devotion time, so they learned to put God in their day and also so that I could get a little bit too.
Read, do art, color, do handwork/needlecraft, other crafting, play games, play an instrument, et cetera.
There are so many options here but the important thing is not to lose who you are and what you enjoy doing in the mundane and necessary tasks of the day. Social media is okay but don’t skip out on doing activities of some kind.
Remember to be a good example. Kids tend to do what they see you do, so be sure to remember this when you choose your activities.
It is also good to make yourself do something you know you enjoy doing, even if you have to make yourself do it. I like art but I have to make myself do art. I guess it requires a bit more from me and the outcome is not guaranteed, so I have to push myself a bit to draw or whatever. Playing games and reading are easier but I don’t get the same benefit from those activities as I do from drawing/creating something.
- Build your relationship with your spouse
This too can be done easily. Scratch his back, bring him a snack, listen to him when he talks, ask him a question (just search online for questions for spouses, and you’ll get lots), or do something with him.
It doesn’t take something grandiose each day to build a relationship. It just takes a little effort. What drew you and your spouse together in the first place? There had to be something you liked to do together, even if it was simply spending time together. Do some of those things again, if possible.
I hope this post encourages you to make time for God, yourself, and your spouse, in some little way, each day.
Until next time, God bless,