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Washi Tape and Bullet Journaling

For Christmas I got some washi tape that I will use in my bullet journal. You see, I like to use my bullet journal minimalistically using only colored pens as I make my to do’s for any given day. I do leave space in between the two columns I create to run a strip of washi tape in between them. This livens up my pages, making them prettier. :)

Bullet Journaling ~

As you can see I add in my thoughts as they come about; if it takes a lot of space I may start a new page or use a large section. I just let it flow and don’t stress out about it. This is to make me more productive and a place to put my thoughts instead of sticky notes and notepads left all around, thus I know that whatever note I’m looking for is in this journal somewhere. ;)

Here’s the same page after I prettied it up. :)

Easy Bullet Journaling ~

That is much more appealing to me. :) I like to do art, as you can tell by my Wednesday posts but I don’t like the pressure of putting my art in my bujo (bullet journal). This particular page is a bit more varied than what I usually do but it’s okay for me and that’s who it’s for.

So, now that you know how I use my washi tape, I want to share some of what I got for Christmas. :)

washi tape stash ~

I got glitter rolls last year for my birthday and really wanted some foil ones but also found I needed to have some plain colored rolls too. However, as I looked for those I found so many wonderful floral and foil accent rolls, as well as even more glittery rolls. Here’s a close-up of some of them.

shiny washi tape + ~
floral washi tape ~
glittery washi tape ~

One of the things I like about these glittery ones is that they are not rough to the touch and don’t lose their glitter everywhere. They also tear with a straight edge instead of needing to be cut with scissors.

As I was looking at things to put on my Christmas wish list, I realized I probably needed a bin to put the washi tape in. The one I found is a nice deep one that holds any of the rolls I own (1st washi tape bin above). But, I filled it up way too quickly. However, I remembered that I had a similar organizer holding plastic fusible beads from years and years ago. Since they haven’t been used in ages, I decided they could be stored in a baggie and I could re-purpose the container for some of my washi tape. They aren’t as deep as my new one, but most of my rolls have a smaller diameter and fit nicely (second washi tape container above). :)

Between Christmas and New Year’s Day I worked on getting some collection pages done that I knew I wanted to have ready to use. Tiffany also uses a bullet journal and loves to pretty hers up as well. Sean got a bullet journal for Christmas this year; he’s had the habit of making huge lists on sticky pads but now he has somewhere to put the lists that are easy to refer to. Since he’s started farming this year, it will be a great way to keep track of what he’s doing. So I shared my supplies of washi tape, stickers, pens, markers, and such with them. :)

Bujo Setup ~
Bujo Prep Group ~

After Christmas was over and I added the rolls of washi tape I got from extended family and the rolls I’d gotten several months ago, I filled these bins and another one I found hanging out in my craft/storage room. Even though it doesn’t seem possible that I could need any more washi tape, I’m sure that come my birthday I will have found more that I want. :D

I decided I wanted to go over and visit my mom to see how she is doing since coming home from her knee replacement surgery. It worked out that my sister Sondra, who has come to help Mom and Dad, needed to go run some errands, so she felt better about leaving while I was there. Especially since it turned out, Dad had his first physical therapy session that day as well. (You might remember that he had open heart surgery after Thanksgiving.) He wasn’t even home by the time I needed to head home, so I look forward to seeing how that went.

However, while I was there a home health nurse came by to check up on mom and how she’s doing, so we didn’t have much time to visit. She is doing well but says there is MUCH pain and it is hard and tiring work getting the knee broken in (my words, not hers). I’m very proud of her though. She is really doing everything they tell her to do, despite the pain. It’s sad because pain is the reason she decided to do this in the first place. We are trusting that by the time spring gets here, she’ll have the worst behind her and be glad she did it. :)

Well, I’ve rambled enough for today. I hope you have a good weekend. It’s supposed to be horrendously cold here this weekend. I sure hope we get some snow. Everyone else is getting snow and I want some too. (I think the Christians in Tulsa hear the weather forecast for snow and pray against it and thus we don’t end up with much. :( I’d like to get snow now because my peach tree needs warmer temps come March and April. ;)

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

The Powerful but Nearly Forgotten Key

Don't forget ~

Mom had knee replacement surgery last week. The next day following the surgery the physical therapist was running her through some of her exercises and was trying to tell her what to expect over the next 24 hours. He said that her leg would begin to wake up and it would be the most trying time with pain and that she’d need to stay ahead of the pain with the meds. Well, Mom was polite and nodded her head signalling that she had heard him and understood what he was saying but after he left she asked me to agree with her in prayer that she would NOT have what he described. She told me that she’d been doing great, thanks to God and all the people praying for her and she was not going to accept his negative report. :) (So proud of my momma!)

The next day before she was discharged from the hospital, she gladly notified that same physical therapist that she did not have the pain he said she would have. Of course, he said he was happy for her but it wasn’t the norm.

I share all this to say that just because someone else or even a great number of people have a particular experience does not mean that you, or your children, have to have the same experience. Just because research has shown that a child at a certain age is defiant, does not mean that you have to accept your child being defiant.

Now I will admit that know that many children go through a stage where they do not share, can be helpful to you as a parent but that doesn’t mean that you accept it. I would suggest that you use such information as prayer points and to help you train your children.

It is so easy to forget the simplest and most important step to any child rearing situation: Prayer! Actually, it is easy to forget that step for any situation in life. It almost sounds trite but it truly is the most important thing we can do as we go through our life . . . ask God for His help and guidance through each situation.

If Mary Jo is constantly screaming, ask God what to do about it, to lead you to information about how to deal with it, AND to help Mary Jo stop screaming. You see you want to ask for wisdom in each situation but then also to ask for God’s direct intervention in the situation as well . . . look for the “easy” button . . . God helping out is definitely the easy option but you don’t want to be immobile either. Getting His guidance to information that can help is vital. Maybe she is hurting somewhere or maybe she is just being stubborn and wants her own way. There are a great many possible reason for any situation and the best bet is to ask for God’s help in finding a solution as well as His touch in your child’s life.

I hope that this has helped remind you of the simple thing that is super powerful. (Even I have to remind myself to pray about situations, and it is usually one of the first things I tell others to do. ;) )

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

New Tiles

If you follow me on Instagram (buttons are at the bottom of every post) you may have seen this first tile I’m sharing today. I did it in conjunction with Zenuari2019 but I have to admit that I am not managing to draw daily. I’m okay with that though because I am drawing more than before.

The Zenuari prompts for ninth, tenth, and eleventh were new to me tangles, tangles beginning with first initial, and unusual string. I combined them all in this one tile. I used two new tangles that begin with the letter M – Mosi by Katy Kehoe and Membranart by Tomàs Padrós. I used a pink water color pencil for my unusual string but then it disappeared when I water brushed it so I added more and a darker pink.

At first I added a metalic pink colored pencil and after adding it on the one side, I realized that it wasn’t a water color pencil. Oops! Then I found a darker pink water color pencil and added more. It all worked out in the end.

Here’s the tile with just the string.

Watercolor pencil string ~

Here it is finished.

Pink Membranart, Mosi, Abeko ~

I really loved how Mosi turned out! I think it looks like roots. :)

Here is the scratch-off tile I did at the hospital last week, that I told you about. Since you use a wooden stylus to scrape off the black and expose the gold underneath, I decided to go with tangles that had some straight lines. I started with Florz, although my diamonds look more like circles here. Meer is a favorite of mine and worked out okay. The surprise to me was that double Betweed at the top. The triangular space just screamed for Betweed. I sectioned into two triangles because of how I wanted it to flow and was amazed that it just came together! Betweed and I have never been on friendly terms. For whatever reason, it evaded me before now. I still don’t have the weighted ends down great but I’m pleasantly surprised with this tile. There’s not really any shading that can be on this kind of tile, which is kind of nice. :D Although I guess I could use a white gelly roll.

Florz, Meer, Betweed ~

So up next is a combination tile for Zenuari2019 for 12, 13, and 14. The twelfth was grid tangles only. The thirteenth was Bring Your Own Beverage. Well, I had already drank my tea for the day and took the last little bit in my cup, added a bit more water to get it out of my cup and poured it onto a tile but it looked like nothing but water.

For Christmas I these distress stains. :)

Distress Spray Stains ~

So I sprayed a few spritzes of the Mustard Seed. Where it was wet already, it was nice and yellow and smooth. Where it landed on dry tile, it was spotted. Since I was using this stain, it qualified for the Diva Challenge this week to use some new medium. :) It had a bit more brown tint in some of it, which surprised me.

Finally 14Zenuary2019 was to tangle your idols, which basically means to look at the tiles of those you admire and figure out what appeals to you. Well, I have loved Lily Moon’s tiles from the very first one I saw. I think it is her boldness with black. I find I really like tiles with a nice black and white contrast. Another artist I love is Anica Gabrovec, Zen Linea. She also has such a great use of contrast and is really inspiring me in color.

The directions of the prompt said to dedicate the drawing to that person. Oh my! I would love to if it had been the pink one up above but this one is not my favorite. I’m even struggling to like it. ;) But here it is.

#DC381 ~

I just added the ?bales? in the background and then added a contrasting color. Now I’m not sure that I should have done that. Ugh! I seriously don’t know what to do to it. I’m probably just going to hide it in my album with the rest of the tiles. ;)

I decided to pop it into GIMP and see what it’d look like with a few changes. Here I removed the background tangle and brown coloring. Of course it removed some of the shading too though.

Removed bales ~

Here I tried to fill the brown areas with black but because it isn’t very solid, it filled in scratchy. I don’t think I’d like it black. What do you think?

blackened in background ~

And then I had one more thought, maybe I should blacken it all in. So I opened it back up in GIMP and painted that background black. It’s not perfect, but it definitely gives me an idea of what it would look like.

#DC381 #zenuari2019 ~

Well, I’d appreciate any tips you have. This is a new realm for me. I did enjoy twisting my grid to flow around the yellow stain. :)

I’ll run for now. Thanks for stopping by! I’d love to know which way you like it best? Have a great week.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Salad Chicken Crouton ~


sweet potato in salad ~

Tiffany and I are embracing the Thyroid Type Body Type Diet, since we both tested out as that body type. I’m very thankful for finding out that information because I’m able to tailor my Trim Healthy Mama food choices into this body type recommendations. In this case it means that we need to eat more Energizing meals which are healthy carb meals.

It is also highly suggested that we have salads with lots of raw veggies: peppers, cucumber, radish, green onion, tomato, and of course, lettuce and such. During the Stubborn Loser’s Menu from Trim Healthy Mama, Tiffany and I learned that this eating style will most definitely help us lose weight. So we are 100% in!

I shared last week, I think, how we prepped a bunch of chicken. It was six pounds that we did and we froze most of it. It’s a good thing too because we are only supposed to have 4 ounces of lean meat with our salad and a total of 1/2 teaspoon of fats with the meal, which falls right in line with THM-E meals. It continues to follow the same idea with only having 1/2 cup of a whole grain carb, which is the low end of THM suggestions.

So in the first salad pictured above we have some of the balsamic seasoned chicken with some fat free cheese. Yeah, I know, neither diet suggests this but I’m just gonna be real with you, we love cheese!!! And totally miss it, so we added 1/4 cup to this salad and are calling it our “personal choice” item. ;)

In the same salad above we toasted a piece of Silver Hills, The Big 16 Sprouted Power Bread, and cut it up into croutons. :) That was our carb source. We take a little squirt (we put our MCT oil in a squirt bottle) of MCT oil and rub it onto the leaves of the salad. You’d be amazed at how far the little 1/2 teaspoon (or less) can go when rubbed or as Pearl would say, messaged onto the leaves.

In this next salad we used a half cup of brown rice as our carb source and some more of the chicken for our protein. We again used the message method for getting some moisture onto our salad.

Salad with squash and chicken ~

We’ve really gone outside the box and used baked sweet potato for our carb source. We’ve even used quinoa. This week we used tilapia for our protein source because both diets recommend having fish a couple of times each week.

I’m so thankful for the “e” meals in THM because without them I would be so bored with this diet. For those familiar with THM and their recipes, we’ve had Cowboy Grub and will have Quinoa Goes Cajun too. As of last Tuesday, I’d lost a little over six pounds in just a week . . . of course those were pounds that I put on over the holidays, as I did not pay attention to even the 3-hour rule of eating, and thus overindulged a bit, as well as was a bit abusive to calories, meaning I ate too rich food. ;)

If you are on THM and struggling with finding your balance of fuels, I suggest taking the body type diet questionnaire to determine which diet you should follow to lose weight and then incorporate more of those THM meals into your diet. (The one we did was from our chiropractor and I have seen that many chiropractors use the same or very similar thing.)

I hope this gives you some ideas to brighten up your carb source salads.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

We Each Need Different Things

We have different needs ~

I received this email from Marriage Today that I thought was very good. I felt it really communicated what women need in marriage. The Bible tells men to love their wives because that is what we need. It tells us wives to respect/honor our husbands because that is what they need.

I recently read this post on Shaunti Feldhahn’s site about telling your husband thank you. Of course it isn’t just a flippant thank you but a specific one like, thank you for taking the trash out. Of course, her examples were much better than mine, so go read her article.

I’ll leave this post with that since there are two articles to read. If the first one rings true for you, maybe share it with your hubby. And then take the second one to heart and look for ways to tell your hubby you appreciate what he does for you and the family.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

New Year Fun

New Year Traditions ~

Last week I shared about Christmas with our family. Today I’ll share about our New Year’s traditions. :) From my childhood I mostly recall watching the Tournament of Roses Parade on television with my family. Mom liked to cook a pork roast with sauerkraut on that day. And of course, Dad liked to watch all the college football games. :)

For many years after Michael and I got married, we’d go over and spend the day with Dad, Mom, and my siblings and their families but we never really did much for New Year’s Eve. Fast forward several years and we went to a church that liked to have a service on New Year’s Eve, full of fun with skits and all. My kids were little at the time and Tiffany, especially, went to bed early EVERY night, of her own accord. I mean literally, she’d come to me around 6:30 or 7:00 and tell me she was ready to go to bed. :D Thus, we didn’t go often. Then one year they didn’t have it and my parents were home, so since we lived just five minutes away we decided to go over and ring in the new year together, all of us. (Tiffany could go to bed when she was ready.) And that was the start of our New Year’s Eve family time.

Now days we get together, bring appetizers and snacks, and play games until nearly midnight. At which time we pack everything up and get ready to count down with the New York replay of the ball dropping, with sparkling grape juice in Mom’s fancy glasses. It is one of my favorite things we do.

In years past, we’d get back together the next morning and Tracie’s husband would help the kids prepare a breakfast for us all, while we watched the parade. Over the last decade that tradition has dwindled. as has going over again on New Year’s Day. I guess we’re older and enjoy sleeping in and having a pajama day full of lazing around. :)

Unfortunately this year one of my nieces was sick after Christmas with a rather high fever on those special new year days. We were still planning to go to my parents’ house but Mom and Dad had a busy day of running around and Dad was a bit tired (remember he had open heart surgery near the end of November) and needed to rest instead of ringing in the new year with a bunch of noise. ;) So we stayed home.

Of course Michael and Tiffany struggled to stay awake but we played some board games and forced ourselves to stay awake. :D Since we were not planning to be home and Dad usually buys the sparkling juice, we didn’t have any. By the way, we live way out in the country and not just merely around the corner from the store. ;) We looked around and found a Lemon Lime Zevia. Hey, it’s carbonated! :D So we split that between the four of us and went to bed. It was a good time though. It was fun playing board games with my adult kids. So much so that I told them yesterday that I’d like to institute a board game night each month. Yeah, I’d like to do it more often than that but I have to be realistic with goals around here and I know once a month is attainable. There’s nothing to say we can’t do it more than that but aiming for at least once a month is good enough for me.

Tiffany and I made the appetizers we had planned to take for our celebration for our dinner on New Year’s Eve. I found some great ways to have Taco Bites and Pigs in a Blanket. And we had our White Queso with pork rinds and baked tostitos (for those that didn’t mind the crossover of fats and carbs).

low carbTaco Bites ~
Taco bite with avocado, tomato, and lettuce ~
low carb pigs in a blanket ~
Queso ~

Sean got a few board games for Christmas. Michael joined us as we played the Zelda version of Clue. :)

Zelda Clue ~

Then we played a round of Carcassonne. It was fun and I look forward to playing it again. :)

Carcassonne ~

He also got Citadels newer version that has new districts and characters. They really enjoyed that game as well, although I think I needed to play it more to enjoy it as much as they did. My oldest, Brian, really liked it. :) They played this one on Christmas Eve night.

Christmas Eve Gaming ~

Well, I think that’s enough rambling from me. Sorry it was word intense in the beginning and all the pictures were in the end of the post, it’s just the way it worked out this time around. ;)

I hope you have a great weekend. I’m going to enjoy being at home. Unfortunately it will be raining instead of snowing all weekend. :( I’ve had a very busy week with Mom’s knee surgery on Monday and running to the hospital for a few days and then running errands too. I was very glad to be home yesterday and finally get my Christmas tree taken down and that Mom has done so well with her recovery. We’ve definitely been blessed this week and am looking forward to relaxing this weekend.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Homeschooling Throughout the Year: Winter

Winter Studies ~

As homeschoolers, education can look differently throughout the year. You are not stuck with one way for the entire year. I thought I’d share some seasonal ideas with you from time to time.

In the winter, you can take advantage of the longer dark hours and do a unit on stars, constellation, astronomy, moon, and all things space. Actually going outside and looking at the stars. Now this had always been a struggle for me because I wasn’t sure I was seeing the right stars.

A couple years ago, we met a man who told us about these powerful lasers that can actually point to the stars. Really! Seriously! It’s sooo cool. Sean bought Michael one of these lasers for a gift a year ago. We really didn’t know how it worked or that it even worked very well. But last year when that same man was in town, we loaned him the laser to do a star gazing with some people one evening. He said that he changed out the battery and it worked great. We brought that laser back home and gave it try and were amazed. We surmised that either the battery was too low when first we tried it or it was not humid enough out, although it doesn’t require much.

I highly recommend this little jewel but be careful with it, as it is strong/powerful. I believe it is very similar to this one. It is also inexpensive. :)

Another thing you can do in the winter (or any time) is to track the weather. Write down the predicted weather and then the actual weather. For older children, you could have them compare weather predictions (different channels, apps, media). See if your favorite source is accurate or which source is the most accurate.

Here in Oklahoma, we get some mild days in winter (remember winter is three months long ;) ), so take advantage of the mild days and get outside. Do some nature study, comparing what you see with what was seen before (be it fall, summer, or even spring). Or you could just get in some physical activity . . . pick a sport and learn about it and its rules and practice one element of it on a nice day; it’ll be a nice break from the normal routine and being cooped up inside.

Go outside and work on adjectives that describe the weather. Sometimes the feeling of the wind blowing on your face or the sun shining down on you can help describe things better. Use the time to have them write something outside, be it a short story, paragraph, sentence, poem, or even haiku. Or just take your normal educational materials outside for a while, the sunshine (if there is any) will do you good.

Of course there is always the library. Don’t forget to take advantage of their resources. Schedule in a library day. Going to the library is an excursion for us, so we only planned one about once a quarter. Of course, we request books all the time and stop by for a quick drop off and pick up nearly weekly but with no browsing. Having a couple hours to browse the stacks is nice and can open you up to some books you would never have thought of before.

Well, I think you get the idea. As homeschoolers, your educational times do not have to fall into any box. You can night school, morning school, or noon school. You really have lots of options available to you.

I hope this gives you some ideas and helps you think outside the box.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Circular and Blind String Tiles

My mother had knee replacement surgery this week and thus I have been at the hospital for a couple of days. On day one I drew two tiles. The first was a gold scratch off tile. The second one I did was for the Diva Challenge this week.

Although I don’t have an art spinner, I used my helix to draw a couple of circles. I did find that the helix doesn’t work as well on cut tiles as it does on a sheet of paper larger than the helix itself, as I had to be careful not move the tile instead of just the pencil.

I was just playing around with the helix when I decided to go ahead and just draw some lines. I started with a few light sectional lines and then went for a few curves/arches. From there I auraed the insides of the curves/arches and then I just drew some straight lines after which I drew some diagonal lines.

I wasn’t sure what to do with the inside of the circles and finally settled on hollybaugh blackening behind it. Here is my tile before shading.

#DC380 ~

Here it is a bit smaller, to see less of its imperfections. ;)

#DC380 ~

And now shaded.

Shaded #DC380 ~
Shaded #DC380 ~

It turned out differently than I thought it would when shaded but that’s okay. :)

I also found Zenuari2019 daily prompts and did get Sunday’s done. It was to use a blind string. I forgot to take a scan right after drawing the string so I inked it in on this first one of the line drawing before shading.

6Zenuari2019redstring ~

The loop just screamed Abeko to me. Abeko is one of those tangles that is relatively new to me and I just love it. It is so simple and flows so well.

I was going for something simple so I added in knightsbridge for some nice black contrast. I knew I wanted to add the Square One: Purely Zentangle focus tangle, Zwieblbee by Beate Winkler. The only thing left to figure out was what to put up in that upper left corner. It just screamed Betweed to me but that scared me because Betweed and I have not been friends. I don’t know why. It just flowed this time around. It flowed so well that I used it again the next day on the gold scratch off tile I did, which I will share next week since I won’t be able to have enough time to add a photo now, since it is dark out and it doesn’t scan well.

6Zenuari'19 unshaded ~

Here it is shaded.

shaded 6zenuari19 ~
shaded 6zenuari19 ~

Did you notice the bit of drop shadow I included? I probably should’ve added a bit of drop shadow on Abeko too . . . drat, just now figured that out . . . oh well. :)

Well, that’s it for me today. If you know of any other month long daily tangle prompts, I’d love to know where to find them. The one’s I’m aware of are Valentangle and Inktober and now Zenuari.

Thanks for stopping by and much thanks to you if you leave a comment, it means a lot.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

P.S. Thankfully, Mom is doing fantastic!!!! God has been so good!

chicken prep ~

Prepping Chicken for Salads

As my family has gone to the chiropractor, each one has been given a questionnaire to complete as part of the initial consultation. This questionnaire is quite lengthy but helps to determine your body type for the purpose of suggesting the food emphasis you should follow. As it turns out, all four of us are Thyroid Types or T-Type for short.

Unfortunately the t-type diet is a low fat one with moderate carbs, very similar to the THM energizing meals. At first glance I was very saddened by this diet recommendation but realized that it was quite similar to the Stubborn Loser’s Menu on Trim Healthy Mama (THM) where I’d lost nine pounds in three weeks. :)

This t-type diet also suggests that two eggs and a half piece of whole grain toast are the optimal breakfast for this body type. I can work with that. :) Of course, we’re going to stray just a bit on Saturdays, a.k.a. pancake breakfast day. ;) But we will give this a go following THM principles. I’m very thankful for the variety of E recipes available to me, otherwise I this diet would be very difficult for me to even attempt. (I love that THM is so flexible and versatile that it takes all body types into consideration. It truly will work for anyone. :) )

The other evening we had country style pork ribs and Tiffany seasoned them really well. I’ll write it down next time and take pictures to share with you. I fixed chicken breast seasoned the same way for Michael. There was some of his leftover, so Tiffany and I added that to our salad the next day and it really made a difference in our enjoyment of said salad. ;)

Aldi had boneless, skinless, chicken breast on sale for $1.49 a pound last week, so I got two packages of it. We bagged each large breast of one five pound package into a quart size freezer back and then froze them for use later. The other six pound package we cooked up for salads.

3-crock cooker ~

I have this three crock cooker and placed two large breasts in each crock. We seasoned one with the yummy bar-b-que seasoning from the other night, one with onion powder, garlic powder, salt, pepper, and balsamic vinegar, and the final one with soy sauce, Sukrin gold (which is a brown sugar substitute), salt, and pepper.

Chicken ~
Chicken 3 ways ~

When it was cooked, I shredded it and stirred it around into all the juices in the pots.

Chicken cooked in crock ~

I used the potato masher in a twisting motion to break it up into chunks/shreds and finished it off with forks.

shredded chicken in crock pot ~

Once it cooled, I bagged it up and froze most of it. I kept half of the bbq one out for our salads the next couple of days, since I know that one is Tiff’s favorite. We’ll probably have to add more seasoning next time because it wasn’t very strong but better to need to add more than to have it too seasoned. ;)

I hope this gives you an idea of how to prep some chicken and make your lunches a bit easier and more flavorful.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº

Your Power in Marriage

Power in Marriage ~

I just love The Generous Wife website! Lori encourages me so much and shares some really great articles. Her daily post is succinct so it is not a huge time commitment and thus is one little thing you can do to better yourself in your marriage.

Well, not only does she have her website, her husband has a site (The Generous Husband), and they have a marriage site as well; such a blessing to Christian marriages!

Last week I read an article they had on another of their sites, The XY Code. This one was written by Paul, Lori’s husband, and really made me think.

Your choices and actions affect your husband even if you don’t see it at first. As much as is possible, be the wife you would be if your marriage were as you want it. And as much as possible, treat him as if he were the husband you wish he were.

Even now, days later, I’m still thinking about this. How would I act differently (better), if my marriage were different (better)? So much of the time it is easy to just focus on the things that frustrate me and I wish he wouldn’t do them (few as they are), but how would that change me? I know I wouldn’t be as frustrated at times but the real question is, do I treat him differently than I should? Would I treat him differently or act differently myself if he were to never act in certain ways?

I’ve learned over the last decade or so that I cannot change him . . . I can only change myself. So when he gets frustrated or shall I say, frustrates me, I have learned to take some L-Theanine (an amino acid that helps regulate mood among other things) or some St. John’s Wort, which I actually take on a daily basis.

At any rate, I’m pondering this thought of how I treat Michael and how it can affect him. I hope these thoughts are helpful to you and that they will be food for thought.

Until next time, God bless,

Michele ºÜº