When your hubby (or really anyone for that matter) does something that frustrates you or makes you angry, how long do you stay angry at him or frustrated with him? It is a temptation to stew about the wrong done to you but what good would that do?
There is some good that can be done by separating yourself from the situation for a few minutes in order to compose yourself and let him compose himself as well. But when the few minutes stretch longer, what good is being done? Wouldn’t it be better to calmly tell your him how you feel and restore the fellowship and peace of the home? It is my thought that giving him the ‘cold shoulder’ is an effort to let him know how unhappy you are/were with the situation. Wouldn’t it be more productive to simply tell him, calmly, what you are thinking and feeling?
There are have been times I get frustrated with Mike, where we have yelled at each other and I get all bent out of shape. It is then when I have walked away, gone to my room and shut the door. Once there, I let out my frustrations to God and then tell Him that I need Him to deal with Mike because I cannot get through to him. Then I leave it with God, collect myself, and go back and join the family with a better attitude. If I behaved improperly before leaving the room, I then apologize for whatever was improper. Then simply move on because my case has been given over to God and I have no more to do with it.
If the trouble came over something that MUST be discussed, it is best to give it some time and prayer and thought before resuming the discussion again. I always begin by asking God to change me where I am wrong and then to change Mike. I have to be willing to change as well as expect him to be willing to change.
Remember, your children are watching your example. Will it be something you want them to emulate? I am sad to say that I did not always set a good example for my kids throughout the years. I can only hope and pray that they learn from my mistakes and do better themselves.
I hope this post helps you in some way.
Until next time, God bless,